Oliver Frances

A change might be defined as passing gradually into something completely different from what is in the beginning; or it could be thought of becoming this altered or modified overnight. Regarding this, I mean that any change, no matter its nature, can be progressive or just a rough pull; but, eventually, it is a change. Changes are imperceptible in the majority of times, because when these are noted they have already changed a situation, and these becomes a part of or a whole. But, changes aren't sometimes appealing either; on terms of that these usually take a person out of his comfort area -what is upsetting. And, this is one of the reason, not to label it as the main, for people to push opportunities aside, which might come along through events or others, and they remain in their former status quo. It implies same job post for years, fears for not to change a state or a country -even a neighborhood, not to embark on any relationship which could change the rail over your li...

Perhaps one could find hard to forgive another after a bitter and suffering experience between them or a painful break-up. However, there is no an existing thing or happened event that can’t be forgiven. Those who don’t forgive are exposed to live inside their own hell.   It’s ironic, at least, not hilarious, that in many cases what should be forgiven is a silly thing. So don’t bog yourself down on account of your stubbornness about your belief that events or things have to be as you think. 

In life, you can lose as well as gain a lot of things. In fact, we weep, the majority of times, over the loss of material things without taking into considerations those things that we let out of our hands, and which are related to our inner world. Not many people have in mind their capacity of loving. As our days turn hard in a convulsing world we just get used to watch love in a Hollywood movie, though. Our capacity of loving goes further than the act of falling in love. Perhaps, some people don’t know about what I am talking because they come from either a dysfunctional family where love was inexistent or a family where love didn’t matter, so it’s as to ask a child about something that he doesn’t know. However, you could be aware of what is the capacity of loving, but you have lost it as consequence of a broken heart, many failed relationships, a bitter divorce or bad experiences in life. The capacity of loving is the element that grants you the ability of appreciate...

When you think about love comes perhaps to your mind either a picture of stunning model who you encounter in your life to love you or a prince charming that appears suddenly out of the forest to rescue you, isn’t it? But, have you had a thought of that love isn't about it? In fact, I propose you to get a minute to wonder about what love is. Frankly, I don't have the idea of that love is what is screened in a cinema even though this entertained us. Perhaps, love is what John Denver's song describes either a way of living or a way to feel, or, also, what I heard once that love is, commitment and sacrifice. Rather, it isn't just about  passion. What I am sure is that love isn't about to lose your individuality nor put up with your lover's expectations. Love should be an expression of what you are or projection of what you want to be mirrored on your partner. Also, love is acceptance. You shouldn’t run the other down, you just accept his or her ways if these...

Valentine's day is over. Perhaps, it's now time to talk about the other part of love Break-Up -specifically the aftermath. For some people this could be a depressing time or a hilarious part of the whole experience. To me talking about relationships, and not to mention tips to keep one or how to heal a broken heart, there is always a funny part, not to tag it as ironic, in the aftermath of a break-up. And, it is not about the things that you throw away but those mementoes that you keep after a relationship ends. If it doesn’t still bring up tears wearing on the T-shirt that your partner gave you on a special occasion -unless you haven't already thrown it away, a big laughter breaks out since you read again what she wrote about her love for you in a poem or in those hopeless lines on napkin. Beyond any doubt, her declaration is now an irony or a hilarious one for sure–if you moved on. The sarcasm depicted in your ex's words lies on coming into account tha...